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Post by housesparrow on Nov 11, 2010 6:50:12 GMT
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Post by jean on Nov 11, 2010 8:35:57 GMT
Not my very first, no.
But I would be with my best friend from secondary school, only she died a few years ago.
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Post by Patrick on Nov 11, 2010 9:03:30 GMT
Awww. Jean! I often think what would happen if I lost mine. He's been more of a brother to me than my brother has. Best friend from school in 1980. The same could be said of Best beloved too - I met her at the same school. I've never been "Big" on friends. You see these Facebook pages where youngsters have picked up 250 odd people - and you think - "Yes but how many do you actually communicate with regularly"? When I was at college I remember there were about 20 people who might call in or I could safely and comfortably go and see. I only came away from there in with just two or three as regular friends though. There was a study just a year or so back that stated that most folk might have an inner circle of around five or six people - and I think that's fair comment really. If anyone was to sit down and really think about it they'd probably find that their true friends might only be one or two. (As the survey found).
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Post by Weyland on Nov 11, 2010 10:45:02 GMT
Not the first. He's fallen out with every good friend he ever had. I was the last one, probably because I was out of the country a long time. I still have his address and other details, and I called him when I heard his mother had died, but that's that. He even refused to be my best man, and upset me when my sister died. Not that I'm bitter. Second -- chronologically -- best mate I do still have, God bless him. Best mate from grammar school I also still have. Had lost touch for years when I emigrated and he defected to London, but found him again via FriendsReunited. He lives in Shepherds Bush. I saw him last the day after the Great Lambeth Meet. We often phone and email. (Ladies: He looks like Michael Kitchen.) Best mate from primary school I couldn't find, but did find his sister. She told me he'd died quite a few years ago from liver damage. Can't say I was surprised, but I was very sad indeed. Found Monica, a sultry brunette siren from primary school days, but she never answered my email, the stuck-up middle-class cow. All I have is a class photo with her in a gymslip. (It's probably illegal to have that photo now.)
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Post by Weyland on Nov 11, 2010 11:00:13 GMT
I forgot to mention my best mate from when I was an apprentice. We met in August 1964 and have never been out of touch for long since. He cadged a Senior Service off me about a minute after we met, and still owes me it. He still smokes, but I don't, so he's quids in.
No surprise there -- ruthlessly exploiting the workers -- he used to be the chairman of the local Young Conservatives. And yet we never fell out. (He won't admit it, but I know he never liked Attila the Hen.)
Old friends are a great asset.
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Post by everso on Nov 11, 2010 11:32:44 GMT
My oldest friend (we lived next door to each other from when we were babies) now lives in Somerset so I don't see her but we keep in touch by email and on Facebook.
My two other friends I've known since infants school and senior school respectively.
Two other friends I met at ante natal classes when we were all expecting our daughters (we then all went on to have sons a couple of years later). I see them once every couple of months for a girls' night out and a good old gossip.
These are all what I'd call very close friends but I don't really have a "best" friend among them.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2010 13:48:44 GMT
my oldest friend is my best mate from secondary school. Je lives in honk knog now, so we dont see each other often, althou he is always saying i must go and visit..which i must do really.. i always wanted to walk around honk knog on acid, i reckon it would be mind blowing. but you carnt really get acid nowadays, and besides, i dont take drugs anymore. but perhaps i could make an exception if i went to honk knog. My second oldest mate is from Art college days, early 90s. i still see him regularly, he came to visit a coupla weekends ago. we got vair dronk on a pub crawl round hastings. i also have many friends im still in touch with from university days, mostly in touch with them online nowadays as theyre dotted all abhaat the country. Oh, and i suppose i better include my ex, who i moved down to hastings with. known her for 10 years. we are totally platonic mates now, but any new women folk i meet always struggle with this. i think i may just stop mentioning she was an ex, to be honest. it always causes issues at some point or other, and it really shouldnt.
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Post by aubrey on Nov 11, 2010 14:46:56 GMT
I'm living with the sister of my best friend from Secondary school (she went to another school - she passed her 11-plus). And I'm still in touch with another friend from there (hoping to visit him next week). There's no one else I'd really want to see from there. Another friend who was at the Grammar school died last year. (We were all in groups together. Different groups at that.
Don't know anyone from earlier.
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Post by jean on Nov 11, 2010 17:36:58 GMT
I've never been "Big" on friends. You see these Facebook pages where youngsters have picked up 250 odd people - and you think - "Yes but how many do you actually communicate with regularly"? When I was at college I remember there were about 20 people who might call in or I could safely and comfortably go and see. I only came away from there in with just two or three as regular friends though. I'm in two minds about this. The number of friends it is reasonable to have corresponds with the number you've got, probably. You don't have to be in constant contact with them - but you probably should have been at some stage, and then you just slip back into that shared history when you do see each other. I have friends from every stage of my life. Some people say it gets harder to make friends the older you get, but I haven't found that. I was especially pleased to make friends when I went to Italy twenty years ago - they're still friends, and I visit them most years - which gave me the courage to uproot myself twice more. My best friend apart from OH, and the one I'm in most constant contact with, is my sister - but she's not my oldest friend because when we were children (she's four years younger than me) I wanted nothing to do with her.
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Post by Deleted on Nov 11, 2010 18:56:31 GMT
ahhh , facebook friends, theres a thing.. i was up to abhaaat 150 at one point.. that included people i knew from off of sausageboards, and people i had enoyed brief encounters with and never seen since.. eventually i decided a cull was in order.. just real-life people i know properly, family and friends.. i got rid off all sausageboard aqwuaintances ( apart from a select few i feel bonded with in a way that transcends sausageboards) no offence if that included anyone from here in that cull.. i just thought, well, the sausageboard people, you see them on the sausageboards.. no need to have them on yer facebook. i've got about 60 facebook friends now, and i am happy with all of them
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Post by everso on Nov 12, 2010 16:08:00 GMT
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Post by riotgrrl on Dec 2, 2010 14:47:41 GMT
I think you get lazy about your friends when you're in a relationship. I go home from work and Gothboy and I just do our routine things that we do, comfortable together. My best friend lives just round the corner, but I don't see her for weeks on end.
I do my own thing too much to have really intimate friends that I keep in touch with all the time, but I have always got plenty of people that I've known for years that I go for lunch with or out for a drink with or whatever a few times a year.
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Post by everso on Dec 2, 2010 15:43:06 GMT
I don't have any intimate friends. That kind of thing is more for when you're younger don't you think? Like Riot, I meet friends for lunch and Mr. E. and I see friends for drinks on a Saturday occasionally, but now we are all mostly grandparents we have our own little family groups.
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